Tuesday, 22 January 2019

When I was young and not so wise...


Oh hey remember me !
I was down in Melbourne recently to watch my beautiful little sister get married. I caught up with my darling friend Mel while I was down there and being the incredibly generous friend she is she gave me this dress and a few other gorgeous vintage pieces from her label Lena Loves Vintage. You can check out Lena Loves Vintage on instagram  or drop her a dm to find out when she is going to be at a market near you. I felt like this dress was the perfect outfit because it exudes mum vibes, more like a late 80's, early 90's mum vibes as appose to a current one. I could almost picture my own mum wearing this when I was younger, although I'd say it wouldn't be in this shade. 

And I'll dive straight into new years resolutions, one of mine this year is to commit to outfit blogging once a month.   I think one of the crucial things with new years resolutions is you need to set realistic goals. Once a month is a pretty realistic goal for me at the moment. I got to the end of last year and realised I didn't have a lot of photos of myself which I think that is a pretty common theme for mums. You always end up behind the camera or you just feel ratty looking and not camera worthy.

I have a bad habit of not keeping up with blogging because - a) life gets busy and b) I overthink it.  I think sometimes when you are blogging you can start to feel like a person standing in a room talking to yourself because you don't really get much feedback about whether people give a shit. I was at a family do recently and one of my gorgeous cousins commented on how much she had enjoyed my blog growing up and then really made me chuffed and I guess the lit the fire underneath me again.

So moving forward I am going to try to avoid over thinking it. My posts are probably going to look different from how they use to as the photos (like these) will most likely be a rush job in between putting Milo to sleep, boobing him, playing with stacking cups etc.

Ok well here's to keeping new years resolutions and I will see you next month. Please feel free to let me know by commenting below if there is anything you want to see/me to write about xx



How cute is the back detail on this dress!!

Gold mermaid shell belt - this is vintage and I think I thrifted it somewhere in Melbourne 100 years ago 
Lazy Oaf x Vans - Ok so you wont be able to get these anymore they sold out super quick. Your only hope of getting these is to start trawling for someone getting rid of a second hand pair. These would have to be up there as one of my most favourite pairs of shoes of all time. You can probably tell by how worn they are. 

And of course a mum bun xx 

Thursday, 15 March 2018

CARRY ON THE LEGACY IT'S TIME TO RAISE A FAMILY

I had good intentions to keep up blog posting during my pregnancy because I figured it would be quite an interesting thing to document. It didn't end up happening because in all honesty I found maternity fashion and the way I felt about my body to be quite challenging.  It's weird that after a few weeks postpartum I can already look back at photos of my big round belly and think it looks beautiful but at the time I certainly didn't feel it. I felt hot, sweaty and uncomfortable in my own skin. Being pregnant is weird because you never get a chance to feel comfortable with your body because it is so rapidly changing. I had all these grand ideas about managing to pull together these cool maternity outfits that would prove that maternity fashion didn’t have to be daggy or a singlet dress with stripes on it (aka every maternity dress ever).

 Years ago when I was studying clothing production, I did a week of work experience at the clothing label One Teaspoon. I spent most of the time counting buttons and trims which for anyone who has worked in the fashion industry is a pretty honest summary of how unglamorous the fashion industry really is. I didn’t care I was so ecstatic to be there and grateful to spend a week soaking it all in and enthusiastically counting buttons. During my week there the owner/Head Designer Jamie was only in the office once as she was quite heavily pregnant.  When she did come in I was struck by how good she made pregnancy look because I had never seen anyone do that before, I had never anyone make pregnancy look cool. She was wearing a raglan tee and boyfriend jeans, a relatively simplistic outfit but it looked amazing. This was at the time when the only jeans anyone was wearing was black supa tubes, the boyfriend jean trend was about 10 years off, so it was simplistic but also super fashion forward in an effortless way. I remember thinking, one day when I am pregnant I want to do everything she was doing with her pregnancy style.

So one of the first things I bought when I was pregnant was a three pack of men’s raglans tee’s in pastel colours. They showed up and the colours weren’t how they looked online and when I put them on instead of being magically transformed into this super cool pregnant person I looked like a frumpy person wearing an ill fitting raglan tee... disappointing. I don’t think at any point during my pregnancy that I achieve Jamie level of fashion but here is a little video of what I did wear.

I think one of the hardest things about buying maternity clothes is that it feels like a waste of money. The further along you get especially it just seems silly to be buying clothes that you will be wearing for such a short period of time, although at the time it does feel like forever. So I though I might share some of my favourite purchases that I thought were worth spending money on.

TOPS
Oversized tees - I've always been a fan of an oversized tee, pregnancy gives you an opportunity to see what all your oversized tee's look like as fitted tees.
Tunics and stretchy mini dresses - Maybe not the best option for anything too expensive because it might go a bit out of shape but the wider hip section on stretch mini dresses and tunics are great over the bump, extra points for length as well.
Mens Singlets/Tees/Tall Tees - Mens Tees are basically what you will get from a maternity, size/length but for about half the price. Pastels being on trend for men mean a better variety of cute colours!

DRESSES - 
Slip dress - These are essential, layer things over and under these using what you already own. Really great for adding length to dresses that have become a bit short as a result of your bump.
Vintages Dresses - Think 80's - bit more over sized and elastic waist that you can sit above your belly and below your bust.
Asos Maternity - There is always a really good range of pieces on sale in the Asos maternity range and I got some of my most worn things from there including

0:05 - ASOS Maternity Nursing Scallop Wrap dress - super comfy, great colour, looks good during and after pregnancy, practical for breast feeding.

0:17 - ASOS Maternity T-shirt Midi dress in rainbow stripe - This is something I'd buy as a non maternity piece, got lots of wear out of it and loved the rainbow stripes - there is not enough colour in maternity wear! Unfortunately  totally useless for breastfeeding :(

0:21 - ASOS Cami smock Dress - You can get these in all sorts of colours, I grabbed the pink and yellow, easiest throw on dress especially if you having a baby over summer.


BOTTOMS
0:08 - These gingham pants from asos are super cute but they are the ones that sit low and have a bit of elastic that stretches at the front. I wasn't a fan of these as I found that when I wasn't very pregnant they fell down and then when I was super pregnant they also didn't sit right.


Over the bump jeans: I love these and had a pair I wore to work all the time. They have a stretch material band that sits nearly under your bust, also excellent for after pregnancy when heading out for all you can eat dinner. There is a good range on asos but i'd recommend doling what I did and buy them second hand on ebay.

Elastic waisted skirts are your best friend and also mid length stretchy tube skirts, I bought a cute pastel pink one from supre.


In my video you'll notice a pair of pink and a pair of lilac pants pop up a few times. These are chinos from Cotton On, I bought the pink pair a few sizes up (yay elastic waists) and end up going back and getting the lilac ones as well. Absolutely loved them.


BRA'S - I tried both cotton on bras and bonds. The verdict was that cotton on had a lot more of a cute range but not nearly as comfy as bonds. They had underwear in a maternity bra..... terrible terrible idea. I've now hit a point where I am too large for bonds maternity so if anyone has any suggestions for G/H cup bras please comment below!

UNDIES - Again tried both the cotton on and bonds maternity both were great. I would recommend going with cotton. But by the end the best underwear you can wear is men's, like the cotton boy leg ones, they just fit so much better and are so much comfier.

FOOTWEAR - If you have read more than one of my blog posts you will be pretty familiar with the fact that I love shoes, particularly sneakers. Something absolutely devastating happened during my pregnancy, my shoes did not fit.... My feet were so hot and swollen and the only thing that I could cram them in and not feel 100 degrees were my slides. I lived in them my whole pregnancy.
Here are some cute ones :



HOT TIP
You might not have your pre pregnancy body back for a while, might never have it back, might not want it back. It is good to factor in whether or not you can feed (if you are planning on breast feeding) in the pregnancy clothing you purchase so that you  can get more longevity out of them.
xx


Monday, 7 August 2017

STAY UP LATE

If you don't follow me on instagram or aren't one of my facebook friends, you are potentially thinking I look a lil different in my most recent outfit photo. It is with great excitement I share the news that my partner and I are expecting a baby in January, 2018!
This blog for me has always been a "lifestyle blog" so naturally (when I remember to post) the content will shift with the shift in my life. I know there is an overwhelming amount of mummy bloggers and I don't see that being the direction I head in (although I don't say that with one hundred percent certainty) but rather a place to share fashion adjustments and more pregnancy and baby focused wish lists. If there is anything in particular you are wanting to see me post, please comment and let me know :) 

I am heading towards the half way mark of pregnancy and I still have that feeling like I have fudged my resume and gotten a job I wasn't quite qualified for. From multiple conversations I am starting to realise that it isn't a feeling that will necessarily go away and like any new job you sort of have to sit at your unfamiliar desk smiling, looking busy and acting like you got this.... hoping that eventually the whole fake it till you make it will come to fruition.  

When I was in the sixth grade I cut my hair off into a bob cut, I got home and tried on all my clothes but nothing looked quite right. I remember looking in the mirror and howling with regret over my new hair cut because now I needed a whole new wardrobe to match my whole new hair, which as a sixth grader earning approx zero dollars was not going to happen. Eventually I adjusted to my new hair cut and my clothes began to look normal and everything was fine. This flashback is a pretty accurate summary of how I feel about my current wardrobe, nothing I own looks quite right. I don't have time to adjust to my new body like I did my sixth grade hair cut because it is constantly changing. 

As women, (not discounting men's feelings, just not something I have experience with) we spend our whole lives with such a strong focus on our physical appearance with a pressure to have our bodies look a certain way. We are continually crushed under the weight of a societal pressure that tells us that one of the worst things you can be is "fat" or "big", just to clarify this is not a point of view I agree with (if not obvious). So after thirty two years of having this drilled into me I am suppose to be instantly comfortable with my growing, bigger, fatter body. I look at other women bigger than myself and think they look glowing and radiant but personally I haven't adjusted to this unfamiliar body and I don't have time to feel comfortable with it because it keeps changing. Once you are pregnant it is like it become taboo to talk about  your body in a negative way because as a walking baby oven you are suppose to be this wonderful,happy, glowing beacon of light. To concern yourself with such trivial things like body image seems to be seen as superficial, yet at the same time you are also suppose to be navigating people commenting on your growing appearance daily. 

This is probably all coming across as a bit negative but I felt like it was something I wanted to write down because it is a part of my current journey and I am sure a lot of other women's. The way I dress is a huge part of my identity and not being able to wear a lot of my clothing this early on has made me feel a little lost in myself.  So now I am going to force myself to see this as a challenge to find the pieces that make me feel comfortable and fit my aesthetic and to work with what I have got in my wardrobe that fits. So far I have found most maternity clothing to be so boring, if you don't wear black, grey, white, navy or striped very few stores cater for you. I feel like I have rambled on a fair bit so far so I might leave maternity clothing exploration for the next post. xx

Mel Stringer Earrings - Etsy

Donut Bag - Kmart Kids
Jaded London Festival Sequn Bomber Jacket - Asos

Pastel Necklace - Sad Gal Craft
Maternity Bardot Dress with Half Sleeve - ASOS
Nike Roshe BR - Hype DC

Thursday, 13 July 2017